Parenting - Love vs Fear

I do not claim to be an expert but I believe that there are some basic parenting guidelines which can help raise children through love instead of fear regardless of cultural or religious background.  For example:

• Focus on positive reinforcement instead of negative corrections.  
• Virtues empower people.  Thank your child when they do something virtuous such as being respectful, compassionate or patient.
• Never make promises or threats
• Establish appropriate boundaries for each child based on the maturity and personality of the child
• Be consistent with rules and boundaries
• Phrase corrections from a positive perspective - explain what you would like them to do instead of what they are doing wrong in your opinion - Only use the word "No!" for safety issues 
• Show/tell them you love them every day and find ways to compliment them
• Children are never "bad"; they may do bad things - be careful what you call your children as words are powerful and may form their self image
• If you feel emotionally out of control, do not "take it out" on your child - learn ways to calm yourself before interacting with your children - even if they are the ones pushing your buttons.  If needed, find a way to physically remove yourself from the situation (if possible).
• Never abuse your child - this includes spanking. 

I believe that parenting skills and basic financial skills should be taught in high school as a mandatory course.

Children are our future and we have the opportunity and responsibility to break negative cycles.